There is a resounding difference between a male and a gentleman. A male is simply defined as (statistically) a human with XY chromosomes. A gentleman is a societal construct that is marked with a high expectation of quality. Quality in honor, conviction, passion, and truth.
There seems to be a rising tide of individuals lacking good qualities, and even lesser individuals demanding they improve.
Firstly, men, never expect equality or justice from the world around you. Men are drafted into wars, murdered, commit suicide, die in dangerous jobs far more than women. Gentlemen are often exploited for their success, prowess, and prestige.
However, this does not mean that all men should not aspire to be gentlemen. For all male Oracles, it is mandatory.
- Always treat those who have earned your respect with respect.
- Never lie, not even to an enemy. Never betray a friend or enemy.
- Do not behave or speak in a way that suggest vulgarity.
- Don’t resort to ad hominem attacks. They are petty.
- Always speak with conviction.
- Be fully prepared to die violently, honorably, for the innocent.
- Never stop improving yourself, your family, your estate, your name.
- Be charitable.
- Do not be cruel.
- Do not resort to base, pointless instincts.
- Be humble, even in the face of ignorance.
- Be polite, courteous.
- For an example: A lady is significantly different than a female human. A lady is a woman of quality and dignity. Of power and decorum. A lady earns the respect of a gentleman, and vice versa, by exercising their preferred qualities. Once respect is earned it should be employed. If both parties behave as they should, respect will never be lost. Thus, if a gentleman does not pay due respect, he is at fault.
- Even our worst enemies should not be lied to. A fight, even a deadly encounter, should never be dishonorably executed. Respect our enemies in defeat. Do not lie. To lie is to bring your character into question, which does more harm to the gentleman than it ever could to an enemy.
- Vulgarity is trivial, beneath our station, and suggests lack of propriety. Humor should be witty, not unclean. Speech is the vehicle of truth, art, and our philosophies. Do not sully it with filth.
- Ad Hominem attacks, insults, and trivial quibbles offer nothing to the resolution of a disagreement. If such a character attack is truth, ex. “You are an idiot,” then the engagement should have never begun. To start an interaction with an individual where such attacks are truth, is the fault of the gentleman.
- Too often, we speak with fillers like “uhh” and “like” and “you know…” Speak with conviction. If we speak truth, and we believe our words to be truth, speak them as such. If you have no conviction or passion behind what you wish to say, remain silent.
- A gentleman may likely die for the protection of an innocent life, no matter how trivial. We should expect to give ourselves selflessly to the innocent. We have and will die for their protection, and the protection of our families. We must accept this is a good death. Even if it is thankless and forgotten, to die for the innocent is an honorable death.
- Our persons, families, and our estate is the totality of what we can gift the world. To cease our efforts to grow these gifts, we take from society. We must improve, become good people. We must benefit our family selflessly, ensure their health and happiness. We must add to the collective resource of our estate, so in our passing, the estate can reward our families and communities.
- Be charitable. The acquisition of wealth is not evil. The collection of resources is not malicious. If the resources are rightly earned, justly rewarded, then a gentleman should see fit to use them at his discretion. It is advised though, always, to give to the innocent. Animals, children, the sick. They have earned our resources in their suffering and/or innocence. A gentleman eases suffering of others, and honors innocence. As we acquire wealth, the value of our resources exceeds the cost of their acquisition, and we should pass them to those who would make better use of their value.
- Cruelty is mindless. Do not relish in death or destruction. Cruelty is not a mark of a gentleman, but that of a coward. Cruelty against those weaker than us is a sin. Cruelty against a defeated opponent is a sin. The wish for cruel vengeance, or the preoccupation with cruel imaginings is a sin. Don’t poison your mind with cruelty. It is cowardice at its worst.
- Be mindful of our basic instincts, those that we come equipped with. We are driven to hurt, eat, reproduce, and horde at unnecessary levels. Our electrochemical responses to stimuli are automatic, instinctual, and useless. Whenever possible, filter your stimuli through reason and truth. Filter your interactions through this primer. Do not resort to yelling, physical fighting, name-calling. Maintain an aspect of poise, decorum.
- Always be humble. To quote C.S. Lewis, “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” If we are gentlemen, our pride is beyond the reach of the trivial. Humility is an investment in social interaction. The humble can induce a false sense of security in their enemies. The humble can an inspire the next generation of heroes. There is almost no instance in which humility is a detriment.
- Make courtesy a habit. Hold open doors, even if it means waiting. Apologize for the slightest transgressions and avoid making them in the future. Say “excuse me.” “Thank you.” “My pleasure.” Treat everyone as if they are your personal customer, because in truth, they are. We may, as Oracles, need to serve them at some point or render aid. Even more humbly, we may, as living creatures, need the help of a stranger. Any opportunity to be polite and courteous should be extended.